For a number of reasons, couples tend to underestimate the severity of their problems. An intimate relationship is usually very important to a person and the thought that something might be seriously wrong with it can be quite threatening. The couple may mistake the problems for a nor-mal stage in the relationship.

Some people feel that the need to seek help is a personal failure and this view is unfortunately reinforced by the some-times negative social attitudes that linger towards people seeking this type of help. Finally, some people have difficulty or feel embarrassed about asking for help, question whether they deserve it, or whether their problems are “really serious enough.” If you think you might need help, it is worth investigating.

We are involved in a relationship that is just becoming serious. Is there anything we can do to prevent problems?

Some members of the clergy and couple therapists offer “pre-marital counselling” for couples who are beginning their relationship and want to take a preventive approach to problems. The better programs of this nature can help a couple anticipate and deal with some of the issues they will face before they become problems.

Is this just a phase we’re going through or do we really need help?

At one time or another all couples go through difficult changes and stages and experience stress. How much stress each person can, and is willing to, tolerate at any particular time varies. If you feel your stress level is intolerable or that you have reached an impasse, you should seek help.

Some people ignore problems and hope they will go away. Other people find they are unable to solve their difficulties despite repeated attempts to do so. If problems in your relationship persist, or if you can’t solve them in a way that is acceptable to both of you, do not wait to go for help. Problems are easier to resolve before they become larger and when there are still positive feelings in the relationship.

We’re intelligent people. Why can’t we sort out our own problems?

Feelings are in a different realm from logic and cannot always be resolved on an intellectual level. Sometimes an objective third party is needed to mediate conflict, or to help clarify what the issue means to each of the partners.

We’re fighting a lot and can’t agree on anything.
People who fight often feel as though they are going around in circles. Un-resolved issues that continue to bother a person can begin to colour everything, and to obscure the original causes of feelings of anger or outrage.

There may be aspects of the original problem that were fully or partly unconscious to begin with. These issues can become further obscured as both partners begin to resent each other’s anger, coldness, dissatisfaction, distance, etc.

The aim of couple therapy is to clarify the important issues in your relationship. Although you and your partner may not agree on all of them, therapy may enable you to identify the most significant problem areas, consider possible solutions and start implementing those that fit your situation.

We’ve been this way for years. What good will couple therapy do?

People develop patterns for handling difficulties. Some of these patterns fail to solve the problems; they increase tension instead. If both of you recognize a need for change and are prepared to do something about it, couple therapy can provide the extra support you may need during this difficult process. The therapist may also be able to offer a perspective that is not obvious to you and your partner.

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It usually presents itself by early adulthood and is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home). Symptoms usually flare up when a psychological stressor occurs, such as the threat of a break-up in a close relationship. Typically, when the stress subsides the symptoms subside as well.

Borderline personality disorder often overlaps with dysthymia (milder, longer lasting form of depression) and psychotic disorders. Nearly 3/4 of those suffering from the disorder attempt suicide or display self-mutilating behaviors like cutting themselves with razors or burning themselves. Only about 10% of suicide attempts are successful.

Symptoms of borderline personality disorder and risks of suicide are greatest during young adulthood and seem to diminish later in life. Most people with borderline personality disorder, especially those who receive therapy, achieve some stability in their life as they age.

Symptoms

The major symptoms or characteristics of borderline personality disorder are:

Unstable Personal Relationships

People with borderline personality disorder fear abandonment and make desperate attempts to maintain relationships. However, their perception of relationships is so unstable that a friend can become an enemy over an ordinary disagreement.

Unstable Self-Image

This disorder is characterized by marked uncertainty in major life issues, such as life goals, sexual orientation, values, career choices, or types of friends.

Unstable Emotions

Their emotional state can fluctuate dramatically from euphoria to intense anxiety to rage in a matter of hours or days. Typically, these emotional fluctuations are reactions to social interactions.

Lack of Impulse Control

Reckless impulsivity may cause people with this disorder to act in self-destructive ways such as driving dangerously or bingeing on food, alcohol, or sex.

Causes

Borderline personality disorder has as many causes as there are people who suffer from it. The disorder may be caused by a combination of a person’s parental upbringing, their personality and social development, as well as genetic and biological factors.

While the exact cause is not yet known, it is understood that the disorder most often manifests during increased times of stress and interpersonal difficulties in the person’s life. There is a common misconception that people with this disorder are weak or should be able to “snap out of it.”

It’s important to understand that those who suffer from borderline personality disorder are not consciously holding themselves back from correcting their behavior.

Treatment

Individual psychotherapy is the most effective treatment for this personality disorder. Treatment most often focuses on increasing the person’s coping mechanisms and their interpersonal skills. The more severe the disorder, the longer the duration of therapy.

Brief therapy can include a supportive, problem-solving approach, cognitive techniques to challenge distorted thinking, and interpersonal therapy to teach the person how to develop meaningful relationships. Brief therapy usually lasts four to twelve weeks.

Medication may be used to treat other accompanying disorders or specific symptoms the person may have, such as depression, psychotic symptoms, or anxious symptoms.

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The pineal gland, a tiny structure at the base of the brain, secretes melatonin when there is a lack of light. The increase of light at dawn tells the gland to switch off this secretion so we wake up. SAD sufferers appear to have something out of balance in their internal clocks. They may also have a genetic vulnerability to the illness, or the illness may be triggered by stress.

Symptoms of SAD include change in appetite, increased craving for carbohydrates, weight gain, decrease in energy level, fatigue, oversleeping, irritability, difficulty concentrating and social withdrawal. Other symptoms of depression may also be present, such as feelings of guilt, loss of interest in activities once enjoyed, feelings of hopelessness or physical aches and pains.

Treatment of SAD often involves light therapy. In light therapy, individuals expose themselves to bright light, either through a specially designed light box or a light visor, for at least 30 minutes per day. Light from standard light bulbs or fluorescent lights is not sufficient.

Light boxes that produce the correct brightness needed are available from a variety of sources. Consult your health care provider to find a supplier who has a device that is appropriate for you.

Using tanning beds for light therapy is not recommended; tanning beds produce high levels of ultraviolet rays which can harm the skin and eyes. Side effects from light therapy may include eye strain, headache or inability to sleep, especially if the light is used late in the day. People with bipolar disorder or sensitive skin or eyes should use caution when using light therapy.

If you believe you may suffer from SAD, be sure to discuss any concerns with your health care provider. Do not try to diagnose yourself or begin light therapy without first talking to a health professional.

Even if you do not develop all of the symptoms of SAD, you may be affected by the short, cold days of winter. Getting plenty of rest, eating regular, healthy meals and having a consistent exercise routine will help you maintain good health during the winter months and throughout the year..

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Would you drink yourself to death literally, drink for six days straight just getting drunk all the time, forgetting your loved ones and letting your last days be a stupor. I think not!

I bet you would spend all the time in the world with your family, friends and anyone who you consider worthy of your last days on this earth. So the next time your child gets a whole in his jeans and you are ready to yell at him or her, remember six days left you might want to bend down and hug him and tell him there will be more jeans to be bought and it could have happened to anyone.

Your wife forgets to get you a pack of cigarettes and you go ballistic and start to yell at her and you don’t talk for two days. Guess what you went to bed tonight going to make up with her the next day and boom you died, it was your six’s day and she never knew you were sorry and how much you loved her and all the children. Now how would that make you feel?

Could that be hell when you realize that you let it go one day to late. Your wife will remember your loving smile or the fight you had over a pack of cigarettes? When you’re last six’s days come are you going to be Ready, get things done that you always wanted to get done and continue to make the relationships the best you possible can.

Remember today is the first day of your last six days and you had better start acting like it because you won’t get another chance and when you stand in front of God and he reviews your life and you see that you wasted all the last six days of your life, that is what Hell is about, knowing what you should have done and didn’t do it you wasted all those last six days,

That is were their will be gnashing of the teeth and you may think you aren’t worthy enough, then the cool part is this, Jesus wipes your eyes and you don’t ever shed another tear and he says well done though good and faithful servant.

Come on in So make the last six days of your life the best that you can possible make them, your son, daughter, wife and you will be the happiest people that ever lived on the earth, what you have done unto the least of them you have done unto me, and the truth will set you free!

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The truth is problems are only in our imagination and can never happen unless there is first a thought that something or someone is not acting in a way or a form that we believe they should. Then your mind tells you that there is a problem brewing and is it a good reason or not? Is there ever a good reason to create a problem? Why would we want to create a problem in the first place? When we process information in a way that creates an imbalance in our mind then you decide that there is a problem and it needs to be corrected.

This correction may come in many forms, such as what she said about him and why anyone would disagree with me is beyond my comprehension. How we then filter the results we now make in order correct the action that we feel needs to be taken as too to solve the “PROBLEM.” Which may or may not exist to anyone else on the planet, but to you it needs to be corrected and fast or you feel that you can’t go on. Stop the world I want to get off! What if the rest of us aren’t ready to get off and for that matter what if you are the only one who sees the problem at hand. People may say that you are acting irrationally and that you are difficult to get along with and why, because you perceive yourself to have a problem that needs to be corrected fast!

What if your correction makes two other people have a “PROBLEM”? Now we suddenly have three problems and this literally goes on forever and it just keeps getting worse as time passes and who and the Hell can see the end of this nasty trend of problems now suddenly multiplying into more and more. We can’t leave out the fact that different races will surely have a problem with this and that of another’s race. Yes if you are yellow you sure aren’t going to understand the greens, after all they come from another planet and besides they only eat supper on Wednesdays and Fridays and we all know that us purples like brunch on Saturday morning were does that leave the plaids?

Can you see how silly it is to create a problem anyway? Does the phrase “CAN”T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG” mean anything to anyone? I hope you see my point about problems and were they lead and how this behavior supports the dividing of mankind instead of the loving togetherness that we need to see take place in this world of ours. Yes we all come from the same place and you may call it anything that you want, I choose to call it GOD! That’s right the one and only! The guy, the man and for you ladies the gal that is in charge of the whole kit and caboodle. Yes you finally are getting the picture and that picture that should consist of love, for that is all there is and in the end that is all there ever was and will be for that matter!

Can you see that or do we need to go on in this direction some more? Since you ask! Here goes. Love en you is easy as a summer breeze la, la, la, la, la? Can you see that the creator could only see love and that is why this whole thing of problems is absurd and goes against everything that the Great One believes in! Yes he wants us to love and be loved! What is it that you are after in this life? You can’t sit there or stand there if that is your choice and tell me that LOVE doesn’t play a huge giant roll in that future of yours?

Can you? That’s what I thought, we all want to be loved and that is a built in thing so to speak and yes the GREAT ONE put that feeling or desire there for a purpose! He wants you to use it and make that feeling grow and spread it around and build on it! You see in the end that is all that is going to be left! If you haven’t noticed we are slowly working our way their, yes even as we speak I might add! Have you ever seen a mother breast feed her child? That’s LOVE! How about the dad hugging his little girl? You got it LOVE. Are you now starting to get the notion here? I hope so for it is very important that someone finally sees the LIGHT!

Yes love is the grand design and shall prevail in the end so, can you see that problems really only exist in your mind and in the end we are all going to go in the LOVE direction, so you might as we get a head start and let go of that PROBLEM and move yourself in the LOVE direction as it is really what HE wants and by now I hope you have a feeling of where we are coming from and are going to for that matter!

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